Now, Theyre Bullying My Daughter In Our Home: Welcome To Cyber-Bullying
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room to see her dad and said, "I got another one of those instant messages. It says, 'tomorrow you had better not show up at school or else'." She has been getting messages like this now for weeks. The result of this is that she no longer likes to turn her computer on.
Sue is now 14 years-old and in the 8th grade. She has been bullied at school for a number of years and they have had a difficult time getting the Principal and teachers to put a stop to it.
Sue has two disadvantages that make her a target. First, she has always had a weight problem, not extremely heavy but just a little over weight. Second, her last name is hard to pronounce. This has led to numerous ways to say and spell her name. They have been very creative and cruel. Tom is aware that she needs to lose about 20 pounds but what can he do about his name, change it?
This should come as no surprise to anyone, but as technology changes we all adjust; unfortunately, so do the bullies. Bullying has gone wireless. These are situations our children face that we never did.
How does this happen? The internet, cell phones with text messaging, instant messaging, camera phones and e-mail are the bullies new tools.
This is coming to a school near you if it hasn't already. The concerns involving cyber-bullying include:
1. Cyberbullying can be much more damaging psychologically and can be much more intense.
2. It creates a barrier between the bully and the victim. This can make anyone who normally wouldn't be a bully now becomes a potential bully because there is no face to face contact. Smaller students have found a way to act tough.
3. It is very difficult to catch the bully. When the victim is suspected or caught their defense is that it was someone else impersonating me or someone must of used my password.
4. Camera phones is making cyber-bullying more creative. Taking someone's picture and then manipulating it. When finished it is posted on a web site or e-mailed out. Imagine getting an e-mail of a nude individual with your face attached to it, and you're only a teenager.
5. Many think this is a joke and not as serious as bullying face to face.
Parents must be aware
Many kids, including Sue, do not want to report this problem to their parents for fear of how their parents may react. Many believe their parents will take away their cell phone, computer, or internet access. This is an obvious solution to stopping the messages, but it is only a temporary one. Sue feels harassed by the bully and punished by her parents when her equipment is removed. This is a double punishment for her.
SOLUTIONS are available - ask questions and act as if you're unfamiliar with the topic. For example, Have you ever heard of anyone receiving improper messages on their phone? Does anyone at school use their camera phones for taking pictures of others who don't want their picture taken? Then Sue's dad should educate her about each situation and how to handle it when and if it arises.
Text Messaging When Sue receives an obscene message, threat, or abusive message on her phone teach her to not respond. Your wireless provider should be notified to see how they handle this situation.
Chat-rooms and Instant Messaging This is what we need to teach Sue:
1. She should never give out her personal information.
2. She should not share her password.
3. If Sue receives inappropriate messages, have her disconnect or block the sender.
4. She should not respond to inappropriate messages. We do not want a dialogue to begin.
5. She should avoid giving out the name of her school.
6. No child should ever agree to meet anyone from a chat-room. That 17 year-old stud just may be a 53 year -old bald man with a pot belly.
E-Mail Once again, when Sue is sent an inappropriate email, she should not respond. Go to the source button to find out information on tracking where it was sent from. If it was sent from someone at school, then print the e-mail to use as proof. Sue's parents can contact the school or their service provider to see what options are available. If there are threats involved, then contacting the police is always an option.
Look into e-mail filters, creating folders for these e-mails, and spam software to block them. Whatever you choose, it will never be 100% perfect in blocking unwanted e-mails.
Here are some warning signs that Sue's dad needs to be aware of and Sue needs to inform an adult if she comes across these:
· If anyone insists on having her send her personnel information to the online "buddy."
· If she is sent messages, pictures, or offered gifts and told not to share these them with anyone.
· If she is requested to send pictures of herself to the e-mailer.
Remember adults do not make friends with children over the internet, then tell the child to keep it quiet without a purpose.
Handling the topic of cyber-bullying with your child before it becomes a problem will make it easier when and if it becomes a problem. Your child needs your guidance and ignoring this issue does not help or support anyone who is a victim of cyber-bullying.
Derek Randel is a parent coach who consults and works with parents in removing the yelling from their home. He has started http://www.stoppingschoolviolence.com a program for parents to help stop bullying. He has authored three parenting books.
Dress up your at-home dinner with these simple, pretty recipes The Washington Post
This Salmon Recipe Shines The New York Times
Paul Batura: My mother's recipe box contains hundreds of dishes â€“ but thousands of memories - Fox News
Paul Batura: My mother's recipe box contains hundreds of dishes â€“ but thousands of memories Fox News
Peak summer corn doesnâ€™t need to be cooked. This bright salad with snap peas and zucchini proves it. - The Washington Post
Peak summer corn doesnâ€™t need to be cooked. This bright salad with snap peas and zucchini proves it. The Washington Post
Nigel Slaterâ€™s recipes for pickled gooseberries with mackerel tartare and tomato pickle - The Guardian
Nigel Slaterâ€™s recipes for pickled gooseberries with mackerel tartare and tomato pickle The Guardian
7 ways to savor plums, the sweet, tart treasures of summer The Washington Post
23 Easy Baking Recipes - Delicious Desserts for Beginners Country Living
Here are some recipes for the perfect summer picnic Biloxi Sun Herald
11 Grill Recipes That Span the Globe Chowhound
Recipes: How cooking with Impossible's Burger meat stands up to the real thing - Indianapolis Business Journal
Recipes: How cooking with Impossible's Burger meat stands up to the real thing Indianapolis Business Journal
Tamal Ray's recipe for Peshwari naan The Guardian
6 Instant Ramen Noodle Recipes Bon Appetit
'Barefoot Contessa' Ina Garten's Top 10 Salad Recipes Showbiz Cheat Sheet
Frozen Tom Collins Recipe - NYT Cooking The New York Times
Weekend Recipe: Marinated Pork Roast | In the Pipeline Science Magazine
Tiffani Thiessenâ€™s Most Jaw-Dropping Culinary Creations: Ooey Gooey Chocolate Cake, Bacon Lobster Rolls and More - Us Weekly
Tiffani Thiessenâ€™s Most Jaw-Dropping Culinary Creations: Ooey Gooey Chocolate Cake, Bacon Lobster Rolls and More Us Weekly
Recipe: Frog Hollow Farmâ€™s Early Summer Salad of Santa Rosa Plums and Japanese Cucumbers - The Mercury News
Recipe: Frog Hollow Farmâ€™s Early Summer Salad of Santa Rosa Plums and Japanese Cucumbers The Mercury News
29 Sunday Dinner Recipes with Chicken MSN Money
Recipe: Better Gooey Butter Cake Alabama NewsCenter
Want a Goya alternative? Try this empanada recipe instead Los Angeles Times
Quarantine Recipes: West African Chicken Curry Modern Farmer
Recipe: Fresh fennel, with its licorice notes, pairs nicely with smoked salmon in this salad - OCRegister
Recipe: Fresh fennel, with its licorice notes, pairs nicely with smoked salmon in this salad OCRegister
The 10 Most Popular Recipes of June 2020 Bon Appetit
Andi Oliver's Antiguan feast â€“ recipes The Guardian
Making Our Recipes Better Bon Appetit
Yotam Ottolenghi's chickpea recipes The Guardian
Recipes Archives Portsmouth Press
David Atherton's recipe for Swedish crown cake The Guardian
Design Recipes: How to achieve perfect furniture placement The Detroit News
5 recipes that use honey, and pack health, taste and fun Architectural Digest India
From New Delhi to New York, 5 Indian-ish recipes to whip up at home CondĂ© Nast Traveller India
Edd Kimber's recipes for one-tin desserts and cakes The Guardian
Chrissy Teigens special JalapeĂ±o Cheddar Corn Pudding recipe to try at home - Republic World - Republic World
Chrissy Teigens special JalapeĂ±o Cheddar Corn Pudding recipe to try at home - Republic World Republic World
Looking for a healthy snack recipe? 3 delicious recipes you can make healthy with walnuts - Times Now
Black Bean and Mushroom Veggie Burgers Recipe Los Angeles Times
Summer Recipe: Grilled Seafood KARE11.com
Tom Hunt's recipe for zero-waste banana-skin chutney The Guardian
All hail halloumi! 17 delicious recipes â€“ from salty fritters to harissa flatbreads - The Guardian
From Malaysian duck rendang to east African sweetcorn and peanut: Ravinder Bhogal's world curry recipes - The Guardian
From Malaysian duck rendang to east African sweetcorn and peanut: Ravinder Bhogal's world curry recipes The Guardian
Get Cooking: Flat iron steaks are great for grilling The Denver Post
Gelsonâ€™s Markets Chef Shares Summer Picnic Recipes Times of San Diego
Overnight Oats Recipe University of Utah Health Care
'A recipe for domestic violence disasters' | Women's center sees uptick in calls during pandemic - KHOU.com
'A recipe for domestic violence disasters' | Women's center sees uptick in calls during pandemic KHOU.com
Nigel Slater's recipes to eat outside The Guardian
95-year-old Twin Falls woman wins national recipe contest Twin Falls Times-News
Skye McAlpine's stylish recipes for summer entertaining | The Sunday Times Magazine | The Sunday Times - The Times
Skye McAlpine's stylish recipes for summer entertaining | The Sunday Times Magazine | The Sunday Times The Times
Simple Recipe Hacks for Time-Saving Meals GlobeNewswire
The Rhythm & Booze Cocktail Recipe Wine Enthusiast Magazine Online
Mango, lime and ginger sorbet recipe Telegraph.co.uk
Summer recipe: Frog Hollow Farmâ€™s Peach Gazpacho Monterey Herald
How to make the perfect key lime pie â€“ recipe The Guardian
Mint sauce recipe Telegraph.co.uk
Mushroom ketchup recipe Telegraph.co.uk
Mango lassi recipe Telegraph.co.uk
Let your blender do the work with these 6 savory recipes The Washington Post
The Toxic Recipe of American Inequity UPJ Athletics
LEE WARD: Cool, sweet no-bake summer recipes The Independent
Whip up a quick eggless omelette this weekend; try this recipe The Indian Express
Classic mayonnaise recipe Telegraph.co.uk
Love cookies and brownies equally? This eggless chocolate brookie recipe is all you need - The Indian Express
Love cookies and brownies equally? This eggless chocolate brookie recipe is all you need The Indian Express
Have this simple immunity-boosting chutney with your meals (recipe inside) The Indian Express
How to make alcoholic cupcakes: prosecco cake and icing recipe Stylist Magazine
Charlotte Latvala: Life can be as simple as recipe on side of mayonnaise jar Ellwood City Ledger
Liam Charles' recipe for peach melba 'freeze-cake' The Guardian
Getting Through to Your Teenager
Have you ever watched your teenager make a mistake (that you've made yourself) after you've warned them at least a thousand times? Is there anything more frustrating as a parent?Well, this is somewhat typical in most "normal" households across America. We (parents) screw up, tell our children about it, and what do they do? They go out and repeat the same mistake.
Develop Your Childs Genius - Right Brain/Left Brain Coordination
No matter how old your children are, you have an immense power to affect their growth, development and success in life. By actively pursuing activities that contribute to the better development of their brain, you provide them with an advantage over all other kids, and increase their chances to be successful in life.
Choosing Names For Twins
There are many reasons for treating your twins as individuals rather than a pair. But if you must choose names that go together here are a few suggestions.
What is Child Sexual Abuse?
What is child sexual abuse? Any sexual activity that is imposed on a child by an adult or an adolescent is a sexual assault and abuse of the power of one person over another. This also includes experiences of child to child, teen to child, teen to teen, if there is an age difference of four or more years.
Why Wont My Teens Clean Their Room?
Have you ever had this struggle with your teens? Did you get to the results that you were looking for? Did moving toward those results create an unexpected rift between you and your teen? Parents complain to me that when their teens won't do their chores and, as a result, they punish their teens, there is conflict and a damaged relationship. Parents say that they don't want their relationship with their teens to suffer.
Pieces of Time and Pivotal Moments
Life is comprised of pieces of time sprinkled with pivotal moments. Sometimes these moments have immediate impact.
Life Lessons in a Glass of Beer
It was blisteringly hot last Saturday. As I took that first sip of a cold quality beer I knew it was sure to ease my thirst.
Top Three Reasons To Get Involved At Your Childs School
You may think once your child has gone off to school full-time (officially a First-Grader) that he/she no longer needs you..
Creating Great Birthday Party Videos
My son recently had his third birthday party and it was mayhem. There were kids all over the place doing all sorts of funny things with parents following them around trying to prevent the next catastrophe.
The Child Chef
If you really want to get your children to eat better, and have a better understanding of healthy foods, let them help in the picking and cooking of those foods. When you go shopping, let your children pick out a fruit or vegetable to cook that week.
Maximizing Your ADHD Childs Performance in School.
As a parent there are lots of things that you can do to help your child with ADHD succeed in school, with friends, and in life. Here are some tips for you that just may help you in your ongoing efforts to help your child.
We All Wish That Our Children Have Good Virtues, But... Are We Setting A Good Example Ourselves?
We all wish that our children should not smoke or drink, should not speak lies, should not steal, should not have a violent nature, etc..
Tips for the Classroom Teachers with ADHD Students
Thank you for all that you do in the classroom! It is hard enough being a classroom teacher today, but when you add to the difficulties two or three children with either Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or minor head injuries from FAS, managing a classroom can be a real challenge! The ADHD Information Library has designed a web site just for you classroom teachers. We have taken 500 classroom interventions that we have gathered over the years from dozens of sources, and placed them on the site for you to visit, consider, and use if appropriate.
Andy Griffith Show Family Lessons
Although it might seem pretty corny to a lot of folks today, the old Andy Griffith Show really did have a lot of common sense family values that we could learn from today.Take for instance the episode "Bailey's Bad Boy" that guest starred Bill Bixby as a spoiled rich teenager who wanted his rich dad to bail him out of jail once he got in trouble in Mayberry.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: What is Impulsivity?
Impulsivity is one of the hallmarks of people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. This impulsivity is the result of the brain's decreased ability to inhibit.
How To Teach Children Loyalty and Dependability
Individualism is a common thing in today's modern society. Many people care more about themselves than others and do what they like with little consideration for people whom may be affected by their action.
Children - Blessing or Curse
You're trying to catch up on some sleep on a quiet Saturday morning when you hear the shrill scream of a child, who seems upset with the fact that another child is pointing at him or her, and has done so for the past three minutes. You turn over and hope that they will resolve it without your intervention?but that's unlikely, given their past.
Twins - Double The Trouble Or Double The Pleasure? Both!
If You're Having Twins..
Stop Lying NOW
Do you have a consistent problem with your child lying to you, even though he or she is normally a "good" child? Sometimes the lies are even about things that don't really matter or your child continues to lie in the face of overwhelming proof to the contrary?It is my firm belief that we will not end lying behavior in our children until we take away the consequences for telling the truth. This is a concept explored in greater detail within Nancy Buck's book, Peaceful Parenting®.
Books Around the House Make A Difference in Literacy Rates
We need a grass roots campaign targeted towards parents to have books around the house. Reading times where TV is turned off and kids are reading.
|home | site map|